Saturday, April 21, 2007
SMS From Hugo
Selamat hari Kartini, Bi!
sender : Hugo

I received this sms about an hour ago, and i replied with : I don't celebrate Kartini's day, but thanks anyway.

For me, it's very unfair to celebrate the birthday of a woman who *only* wrote letters complaining how hard being a (Javanese) woman in Indonesia that era, apa kabar pejuang perempuan lainnya? Mereka ga melakukan hal yang less berguna kok.

Besides, what Kartini fought for is not gender-equality at all. She wanted every woman be more skillful in domestic area. Sekolah keputrian bo~!

Agak mengherankan buat gue. Selama itu belum terjawab, gue ga mau ngerayain Kartini...

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Sunday, April 1, 2007
Pillow Talk : About Sexy Outfits
Me : Baby, if a woman wears sexy outfits and every eye looked at her with lust, does she become an object of sexual desires?

Hub : Why do you ask that?

Me : Just curious, I wanna know a man's opinion.

Hub : Well, it depends. Does she do that intentionally?

Me : Sure, she loves people staring at her.

Hub : In that case, she's not the object.

Me : Kewl. I think the same way too..

Hub : But..

Me : what?

Hub : The problems is..we live in the culture where people have shallow opinions about sexiness which is 'women with sexy outfits are prostitutes', society will still think that she is an object, and worse, society will abuse her : emotionally; and even physically.

Me : *sigh* yeah, you're so right.

Hub : Hey, you know what... I just loooove your attitudes when you wear sexy outfits.

Me : Why?

Hub : because you show 'hey, you can see me, but you can't touch me, fuck off!' attitude

Me : Hahaha... wells, for you, of course you can and are allowed to touch me.

Hub : hey, are u flirting with me?

Me : what do you think?

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Friday, March 30, 2007
Karena Seksi, Maka Lecehkanlah...
Kenapa ada anggapan bahwa cewek berpakaian seksi itu boleh diperkosa dan dilecehkan?

Bahwa dalam masyarakat patriarki, perempuan didefinisikan sebagai yang seharusnya tidak agresif, pasif, keibuan, tidak menampilkan seksualitas, tidak beropini. Perempuan-perempuan macam itulah yang dianggap 'perempuan sejati', sedangkan yang kebalikannya, misalnya agresif, seduktif, aktif, berani menampilkan seksualitas, maka disebut bukan perempuan baik2 [sundal/pelacur etc]

Itu sebabnya ada tendensi untuk menggeneralisasikan bahwa : seksi = murahan = layak diperkosa. Karena perempuan berpakaian seksi dianggap sundal, emang layak diperlakukan demikian.

Padahal seharusnya ga gitu. Bahkan, buat gue, PSK pun nggak boleh diperlakukan semena-mena, seperti Kamtib yang menjaring mereka malam-malam tertentu, tapi di mobil, para keparat pemerintah itu main pegang-pegang mereka. tsk tsk.

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Thursday, March 29, 2007
Tentang Pornografi dan baju Sexy.
kenapa kaum-kaum beragama selalu menuduhkan bahwa perempuan berbaju seksi dan/atau pornografi adalah sumber/penyebab degradasi moral bangsa?

Padahal bukan. Itu sih masalah otaknya aja yang ngeres.

Ada kasus, dalam demo FPI yang against penerbitan majalah playboy. Mereka jelas2 memprotes soal buka2an.. tapi tau nggak apa yang terjadi?

Di dalam sana terjadi pelecehan terhadap beberapa jurnalis perempuan yang sama sekali tidak berbaju minim, as a journalist, tentu seorang cewek ga bakal bodoh banget pake baju minim liputan di jalan. Kejadiannya adalah, mereka disuit2in, dipegang pantatnya, dipegang payudaranya dst dst. Itu apa? Gila nggak sih? Untungnya gue gak kena, karena gue sama rekan, cowok ;-)

Masalah perkosaan dan pelecehan itu adalah gak lebih dari masalah wawasan seseorang yang sangat mempengaruhi persepsi orang tersebut terhadap sesuatu.

Kalau seseorang sampai memperkosa karena ngeliat goyang inul misalnya, mungkin pelaku emang wawasan cuman segitu doang, sehingga kemampuannya mempersepsi ya cuma sebatas gitu doang ;-)

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Wednesday, March 21, 2007
Freelancer.
Hehehe..
jadi freelancer itu enak ya ternyata?

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Tuesday, February 27, 2007
BIG QUESTION : About Aparat Pemerintah
Kenapa aparat pemerintah selalu berusaha ngebuat gue ngeluarin duit setiap gue ada masalah kenegaraaan, macam bikin KTP, perpanjang SIM, paspor dan lain-lain?

Apa karena gue Cina, mereka pikir gue kaya ya?

Silly, ga semua cina kaya, tau!

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Tuesday, February 13, 2007
Farewell
There are times to say 'Hello'
there are also times to say 'Goodbye'

Nothing to be too happy about, nothing to be too sad about.
Life goes on.

the last note using my office internet connection in my last day working here.

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